Learning to Live with Grief

Many people can feel alone in their grief, not realizing that others have similar thoughts and experiences. Read personal experiences of coping and navigating life after losing a loved one. We encourage you to share your own stories about living with grief.

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Remembering Them with Love

When a loved one dies, they will be forever in our hearts and thoughts. Alive in Memory gives you the opportunity to document your cherished memories and share their lives with others.

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“Grieving is a journey that teaches us how to love in a new way now that our loved one is no longer with us. Consciously remembering those who have died is the key that opens the hearts, that allows us to love them in new ways.”

~Tom Attig, The Heart of Grief

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The Wound Time Won’t Heal

The Wound Time Won’t Heal

We’ve all heard it. “Time heals all wounds.” Sounds incredibly hopeful for someone who’s drowning in grief. Except when time doesn’t heal your wound. What then?






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The Ache of Losing a Child

The Ache of Losing a Child

We have a bond with our children that can never be broken. Not even by death. But for those of us whose children died, they took a part of us we can never get back. And it hurts like hell. We are all left with the same deep ache that will never go away.






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5 Basic Truths That Can Help You Through Grief

5 Basic Truths That Can Help You Through Grief

Grief is universal. Just as you cannot avoid death, you also cannot avoid grief.
While there is no universal timetable or sequence of how we deal with grief as individuals, there are plenty of common themes and reactions to grief. There are also some universal truths about grief — and life itself — that have the ability to help anyone work through the pain of grief.






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Grief 2.0

Grief 2.0

As I write this, I’m laying in a field of grass at a park near my house. My son is happily playing with some newly made friends a few feet away. A cool breeze dances through the leaves of the trees overhead, creating a beautiful symphony of whispers. I listen to bursts of laughter peppered in the conversations of the kids who have joined together to make the most of their short time at the park before the sun sets and they have to head home.

All of this makes me want to pause and savor this moment.






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ONE Word that Has the Power to Change Everything

ONE Word that Has the Power to Change Everything

A few day’s after this recent New Year’s celebration, I realized I was in a deep wave of grief. I was convinced that fully immersing myself in this anger and despair for the next few hours would do me good. It would be a release. And then something changed it all. In an instant, I shed the weight of anger and despair. I happily released it into the atmosphere to float away. I felt lighter. I felt calm. I felt like everything was okay once again. Why?…






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To the Boy Who Has My Daughter’s Heart

To the Boy Who Has My Daughter’s Heart

A piece of my daughter’s heart was transplanted into a baby boy. While I’m certain that this boy and his family are thankful every day for this gift of a second chance at life, on this Thanksgiving day I want to tell him a little bit about the girl who literally gave a piece of her heart to him…






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Gifts from My Daughter on Her Birthday

Gifts from My Daughter on Her Birthday

Today is my daughter’s birthday. If she were still alive, Margareta would have been 10-years-old. Since I can no longer buy presents for my daughter on her birthday, I’d like to share with you a few of the gifts she has given me…






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Anticipation of a Difficult Day is Always Worse than the Day Itself

Anticipation of a Difficult Day is Always Worse than the Day Itself

Starting this week, there is a rapid succession of difficult days ahead. That is…I anticipate they’ll be difficult. Anticipation can work one of two ways: it can imagine the best-case scenario…or it can imagine the worst. So when we anticipate a difficult grief trigger, it tends to bring up all the worst-case scenarios our imaginative minds can conjure up…






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The Big Lie

The Big Lie

We first hear it as little kids in our bedtime stories. When we’re older, we see it repeated again and again in countless movies. We’re even told we can buy it in endless advertisements. But it isn’t real. It’s all a big, perverse lie that can do real damage in real lives…






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Lost in the Forest of Grief

Lost in the Forest of Grief

It’s easy to lose sight of the big picture of our lives, seeing only the “trees” that represent everyday activities and emotions of life that surround us. After the sudden death of my daughter, I found myself transplanted into a thick grove of new, unfamiliar “trees” that I didn’t know how to escape from…






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