Living With Grief
Many people feel alone in their grief, not realizing that others have similar thoughts and experiences. These articles are based on personal experience and intended to provide a sense community for those experiencing grief.
The Indifference to Deaths Caused By Covid-19
The number of people who’ve died from Covid-19 is very distressing. But even more distressing is society-at-large’s apparent indifference to the devastation thrust upon hundreds of thousands of families and friends who’ve lost a loved one to this pandemic.
The Continuing Cycle of Grief
Years after the devastating loss of my 4-year-old daughter, I have come a long way in my journey of grief and healing. I have learned how to live a happy life in the aftermath of devastation. Yet, each year I enter into a predictable cycle of grief that pulls me back into a state of despair.
The Fading Tapestry of a Life Once Lived
The brightly colored threads which had weaved together to form the story of your life have significantly faded and worn with every passing year. What does that mean for the loved ones left behind?
Finding Time to Grieve Years After Your Loss
For a parent who lost a child many years or decades ago, it can be challenging to find ways to express and release the constant grief that is buried below the surface of our daily activities.
Adrift in A Sea of Grief
I am adrift in an endless sea of grief. As I float along, the world continues to go on around me as if I am walking among the bustling crowds–but my feet haven’t touched dry land since September 30, 2009. It was on that day–the day my 4-year-old daughter drowned–I was unwillingly thrust into this watery journey.
Living in the Shadow of a Child’s Death
For bereaved parents, that belief that we could ever deserve a life with happiness, joy, meaning, and purpose once more is one of the hardest to come by in the shadow of our child’s death.
The Wound Time Won’t Heal
We’ve all heard it. “Time heals all wounds.” Sounds incredibly hopeful for someone who’s drowning in grief. Except when time doesn’t heal your wound. What then?
The Ache of Losing a Child
We have a bond with our children that can never be broken. Not even by death. But for those of us whose children died, they took a part of us we can never get back. And it hurts like hell. We are all left with the same deep ache that will never go away.
5 Basic Truths That Can Help You Through Grief
Grief is universal. Just as you cannot avoid death, you also cannot avoid grief.
While there is no universal timetable or sequence of how we deal with grief as individuals, there are plenty of common themes and reactions to grief. There are also some universal truths about grief — and life itself — that have the ability to help anyone work through the pain of grief.
Grief 2.0
For many years after the death of my 4-year-old daughter, grief was all about coming to terms with a life without my daughter in it. It’s been many years since Margareta died…and it is only NOW that I finally feel ready to move onto my next phase of grief. Call it Grief 2.0 if you will.
ONE Word That Has the Power to Change Everything
A few day’s after this recent New Year’s celebration, I realized I was in a deep wave of grief. I was convinced that fully immersing myself in this anger and despair for the next few hours would do me good. It would be a release. And then something changed it all. In an instant, I shed the weight of anger and despair. I happily released it into the atmosphere to float away. I felt lighter. I felt calm. I felt like everything was okay once again. Why?…
To the Boy Who Has My Daughter’s Heart
A piece of my daughter’s heart was transplanted into a baby boy. While I’m certain that this boy and his family are thankful every day for this gift of a second chance at life, on this Thanksgiving day I want to tell him a little bit about the girl who literally gave a piece of her heart to him…