Many people can feel alone in their grief, not realizing that others have similar thoughts and experiences. Read personal experiences of coping and navigating life after losing a loved one. We encourage you to share your own stories about living with grief.
“Grieving is a journey that teaches us how to love in a new way now that our loved one is no longer with us. Consciously remembering those who have died is the key that opens the hearts, that allows us to love them in new ways.”
~Tom Attig, The Heart of Grief
Grief is universal. Just as you cannot avoid death, you also cannot avoid grief.
While there is no universal timetable or sequence of how we deal with grief as individuals, there are plenty of common themes and reactions to grief. There are also some universal truths about grief — and life itself — that have the ability to help anyone work through the pain of grief.
As I write this, I’m laying in a field of grass at a park near my house. My son is happily playing with some newly made friends a few feet away. A cool breeze dances through the leaves of the trees overhead, creating a beautiful symphony of whispers. I listen to bursts of laughter peppered in the conversations of the kids who have joined together to make the most of their short time at the park before the sun sets and they have to head home.
All of this makes me want to pause and savor this moment.read more
A few day’s after this recent New Year’s celebration, I realized I was in a deep wave of grief. I was convinced that fully immersing myself in this anger and despair for the next few hours would do me good. It would be a release. And then something changed it all. In an instant, I shed the weight of anger and despair. I happily released it into the atmosphere to float away. I felt lighter. I felt calm. I felt like everything was okay once again. Why?…read more
A piece of my daughter’s heart was transplanted into a baby boy. While I’m certain that this boy and his family are thankful every day for this gift of a second chance at life, on this Thanksgiving day I want to tell him a little bit about the girl who literally gave a piece of her heart to him…read more
Today is my daughter’s birthday. If she were still alive, Margareta would have been 10-years-old. Since I can no longer buy presents for my daughter on her birthday, I’d like to share with you a few of the gifts she has given me…read more
Starting this week, there is a rapid succession of difficult days ahead. That is…I anticipate they’ll be difficult. Anticipation can work one of two ways: it can imagine the best-case scenario…or it can imagine the worst. So when we anticipate a difficult grief trigger, it tends to bring up all the worst-case scenarios our imaginative minds can conjure up…read more
We first hear it as little kids in our bedtime stories. When we’re older, we see it repeated again and again in countless movies. We’re even told we can buy it in endless advertisements. But it isn’t real. It’s all a big, perverse lie that can do real damage in real lives…read more
It’s easy to lose sight of the big picture of our lives, seeing only the “trees” that represent everyday activities and emotions of life that surround us. After the sudden death of my daughter, I found myself transplanted into a thick grove of new, unfamiliar “trees” that I didn’t know how to escape from…read more
While you were alive, your name was spoken more times than I could ever possibly count. These days, It seems the only way I can still hear your beautiful name is if I say it. It makes me wonder whether people still think of you. It makes me fear that you are already forgotten…read more
I don’t know how I learned it, but at a young age, I was introduced to the concept of death that was nice, neat, and acceptable. The problem was that my ongoing experience with death over the course of my life didn’t seem to ever fit that mold…read more